Wednesday, March 12, 2014

To Get a Dog or Not to Get a Dog?

TO GET A DOG OR NOT TO GET A DOG?


Sydney giving Taylor some lovins!

Are some of you parents still debating on whether or not to get a dog or some other animal to add to your family?  Do you think that it would be a good thing for your children, marriage, and overall family life?  Taking on pet parenthood is just as much responsibility as that of a child.  House training, vet bills, and other types of behavioral training make having a dog or cat as part of your family a lot of work.  However, the joy that an animal can bring to your family can be worth it.

Matt and I added to our family with Sydney a few years before Taylor was born.  We went through the house training headaches by trying to keep up with taking her outside as well as cleaning up any messes left in the house.  She has had to be taught appropriate behavior while food was being prepared (ie. no begging, jumping, and whining when it wasn’t given to her).  She has had to learn what the commands “Come” and “Sit” mean.  

As a Shih Tzu being prone to eye problems, she has given us late-night trips to the 24-hour emergency veterinary hospital twice – on a Sunday night when our vet’s office wasn’t open (due to canine pink eye one time and some type of extreme eye irritation another one)!  We’ve been responsible for her post-surgical care after she was spayed to make sure that the suture area was clean as well as making sure that she did not lick, bite, or scratch it.

However, aside from the unpleasant aspects of pet parenthood (vet visits, cleaning up dog poop, etc.), we wouldn’t trade it for the world when that little dog excitedly jumps and barks with joy when we come home!  Or for the times that she cuddles with us.  Or the times that she plays with our daughter.  Our family is not complete without her!

I prefer to call the animal living in your home a furry child instead of a pet.

According to Lawrence Robinson and Jeanne Segal, Phd., on helpguide.org [3] , having an animal in your family has healthy benefits for both physical health and mood.

Studies have indicated that people who live with a furry child experience less depression and anxiety than those who do not.  Animals have a calming effect on people.  Also, people experience less heart attacks and high blood pressure when an animal is present in their lives.  They encourage physical activity, such as walking and playing.

The web site states, “One of the reasons for these therapeutic effects is that most pets fulfill the basic human need to touch. Even hardened criminals in prison have shown long-term changes in their behavior after interacting with pets, many of them experiencing mutual affection for the first time. Stroking, holding, cuddling, or otherwise touching a loving animal can rapidly calm and soothe us when we’re stressed.

There are also health benefits for children when a furry family member is in their lives.  Robinson and Segal’s article also states that children not only experience less allergies and asthma, but they also learn responsibility with the dog’s or cat’s care.  They also learn empathy and compassion from having an animal in the family.  “Unlike parents, pets are never critical and don’t give orders,” the article says, “They are always loving, and their mere presence at home can help provide a sense of security in children.”

Even children with special needs, such as autism, benefit from having an animal in their lives.  Autistic children rely on nonverbal cues, as do animals. These children may be able to connect better to an animal than to a person.  What they learn from connecting to an animal may help them to better communicate with people, says helpguide.org.  The article also states that these children may also receive a confidence boost from interactions with animals as well as learning how to calm and self-regulate their emotions associated with their disorders.

USA Today writer, Steve Dale, states in his article [2] How Dogs Spread Happiness why animals elevate a person’s mood and are so calming. 

While petting a dog, the body release a hormone called Oxytocin, which helps to reduce blood pressure and also reduces levels of cortisol, which is a hormone that is related to stress and anxiety.

An article posted on humana.com also states that playing with a dog or cat increases serotonin and dopamine in the brain.  These are the body’s “feel-good chemicals.”

Humana.com [1] states that having a dog or cat can also connect you and your family with the community.  Dogs or cats, like children, can be used as conversation starters.  For example, people walking their dogs may also see other dog walkers while they’re out and converse with them.  People can also meet other animal lovers at pet stores, vet’s offices, and other pet-related places.  Social media also has groups and forums for people with pets.

An article on whattoexpect.com [4] also states that having an animal in the family teaches children as young as toddlers a lot about responsibility as well as kindness and compassion.

Taylor's gives Sydney a treat as her job.
Of course you’ll take on most of the pet-care chores,” the article explains, “but your tot will absorb a lot from your nurturing example, like the importance of being kind and gentle. He can even lend a tiny hand with the easier jobs, like pouring food into a dish.

This is absolutely true in our household with Taylor.  After watching Matt and me pour food into Sydney’s food bowl, give Sydney a treat after going outside, and opening the door to let Syd back inside the house, Taylor has taken on some of these tasks without being asked to do so.  Sometimes her enthusiasm for Syd care creates more work for us, such as spilling too much of Sydney’s holistic dog food all over the floor, but we understand that it is very important to allow these efforts to happen.  We call Taylor our Future Dog Sitter in Training!

Whattoexpect.com also states that having an animal in the family helps to boost a child’s self-esteem.  A child has a companion in the family who loves them back without judging them.  Also, they can help a child academically by having a child read aloud to a dog or cat, who will not judge or laugh at the child’s reading errors, which can turn a reluctant reader into a confident reader.

In addition to boosting self-esteem, the article states that having an animal in the house can boost a child’s healthy and immunity.  Although some children truly do have allergies to certain animals – and this should be considered when deciding on having a pet in the house – some children develop an immunity and less allergies when exposed to certain bacteria.

And some research shows that pet owners tend to get sick less often — in fact, a 2012 study determined that children who lived with dogs were generally healthier during their first year of life, with fewer respiratory problems and less frequent ear infections than kids without canines,” the article states.

As much as Taylor enjoys getting Sydney kisses, her exposure to Sydney’s germs must boost her immune system!  This child’s health has been pretty good during her couple of years of life.  She has had one cold caused by a virus (as opposed to the cold symptoms associated with teething) that went around most of our family around Christmas. 

Before deciding to add a furry one to your family, DO YOUR RESEARCH on which kind of animal (dog or cat or even fish) to get as well as which breeds.  Don’t just get the cutest or friendliest type of dog.  Make sure that a certain breed’s needs for a lot of physical activity do not clash with apartment or townhouse living, where as a lap dog would be a better option, for example.  If you don’t have time to brush and groom, a long-haired breed would not be a good option.

Also, check your local animal shelter for dogs or cats to adopt.  Some of these dogs and cats are waiting for their forever home and may be euthanized if not given a home in time.  A young puppy or kitten may also not always be the best option for you.  Some older dogs or cats need a home as well and may not necessarily have the endless energy and lack of manners (if already trained) that a young one would.

The following links below have been used for informational purposes in the blog post.  Click on them for more information about the benefits of having an animal in your family’s life.



Monday, March 10, 2014

ODE TO THE FULL-TIME PARENT

Hi, everyone!  Sorry that I haven't posted in a while.  Life gets crazy sometimes!

Anyway, I am back with a poem that I wrote last night.  Since my last blog post about a year and a half ago, some things have changed.  I have had changed jobs twice.  I went from the real estate/mortgage industry to the mental health industry and then working part-time at a fitness center.  People's reactions to my part-time job so that I can spend more time at home with Taylor and Sydney inspired this new blog post.  It involves both my life with the "kids" (toddler and dog).  Enjoy!



ODE TO THE FULL-TIME PARENT
By Jodi Uhron 


We live in a world of monetary success.
We always want others to think admirably of us.
When people meet us, they want to know what we do.
We respond stating our job title as well as, “And you?”

But what about those of us who do not yearn for a career?

Our ambition is to work with our children, right here,

Watching our little ones grow from that little baby
Into a fine young gentleman or into a smart young lady.

We go through sleepless nights with a newborn to feed
Fixing up that bottle or nursing, even if it’s rest we need.
We deal with tantrums that appear to be over nothing
Even if to my child it is indeed an important something.

We clean up a mess of toys that we’d just put away
Just a few minutes ago for the umpteenth time today!
Only to see those same toys end up back on the floor
Causing me much anger as they sometimes block the door!

Sometimes I start to do dishes as I hear my dog’s bark
For me to let her outside to sniff around in the dark.
While she takes her time to figure out where to go,
I shiver out there and remind her, “C’mon, it’s cold!”

My toddler’s random kisses and hugs make me melt,
And there’s no other job in which this joy can be felt!
My dog snuggles up to me with her head on my lap,
To her, my legs are the coziest place for her to nap.

No, I do not earn a large salary or pay.
You can judge my life’s ambitions if you may,
But in my heart, I am where I am supposed to be
With a sweet dog and a little girl needing me.

I may not be the working parent or bread winner,
But I am the one who is preparing a healthy dinner.
I clean the house and care for my child and dog.
My daily adventures would make quite a blog!

Others may look down on me for not having a career
To boast about and give my family bragging and cheer.
However, my child and dog are my whole world.
Without them, my heart would not as much soar.

You see, the road to job happiness is not black and white.
It’s important for you to do what you think is right.
If staying home with your babies is what makes you glad,
The right job for you might just be a full-time mom or dad!